Reflections by Dr. Barbie Hessel
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What If I’m Not Unhappy?
I have been thinking a lot lately about what actually makes us satisfied with our lives. Or maybe satisfaction isn’t even the right word. For a long time, I think I assumed happiness and satisfaction were more or less the same thing and that both were somehow the...
On Turning Seven: Seven years of Simply Being—and the choices, changes, and people that quietly built what it is today.
Simply Being turns seven in September. Seven is a funny age. You're definitely not a baby anymore. You have friends, opinions, a personality. You know what you like and what you don't, although you probably still have a lot to figure out. Simply Being started in...
When Did Everyone Start Talking About Therapy?
The first time I went to therapy, I was a teenager, and I lasted only a few sessions. I don’t remember much about the therapist or even what we talked about, which is probably telling in itself. What I do remember is how strange the whole thing felt. I had no idea...
Why Is It So Hard to Set Boundaries?
I've been thinking lately about the way we talk about boundaries, particularly outside of therapy. Spend a few minutes on social media and you'll come across some version of the same advice: protect your peace, cut people off, don't tolerate people who make you...
Why We Keep Repeating the Same Relationships Patterns
One of the questions I hear most often in my office is some version of, “How did I end up here again?” The relationship may look different from the last one; the circumstances may have changed. Yet there is often a familiar feeling running through it. A person may...
I Understand…So Why Haven’t I Changed?
One of the things I've found myself thinking about more over the years is how much my understanding of therapy has changed. When I first became a therapist, I was deeply drawn to insight. That probably isn't surprising. I've always loved ideas and theories, and I...
Meet Dr. Barbie Hessel: Nashville’s Leading Trauma Therapist and the Heart Behind Simply Being Therapy
There is a particular quality to the air inside the Simply Being Therapy office in Berry Hill, Nashville. It is the kind of space that seems designed not just for comfort, but for permission — permission to slow down, to exhale, to arrive exactly as you are....
On Turning 50
I've been thinking a lot lately about getting older. I turned fifty this year, and somehow I'm already almost fifty-one. That seems impossible because in my head I was just having my 40s birthday celebration not that long ago. People ask me what fifty feels...
Why I Can’t Stop Thinking About “From”
The season finale of From is over. Some pieces fell into place. Many didn’t. There are still so many questions, so we are left where the writers clearly intended us to be—waiting in the Lake of Uncertainty. All us From fans are anxiously waiting for the next season....
Why Are We Drawn to Obsession? A Therapist Explains What These Stories Reveal About Attachment
By Dr. Barbie Hessel Almost everyone has looked back on a relationship and wondered, How did I end up here again? I know I have. The details may be different. The person may be different. But something about the relationship feels oddly familiar. Maybe you find...
Why Are We So Fascinated by Obsession?
If you know me as a friend or as a client, you know I love engaging with a good story. Specifically, I’m drawn to darker films or books that ultimately are about an aspect of the human experience we often don’t care to look at. So, I watched the indie films...
Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy vs. the Medical Model: Understanding the Difference
As ketamine treatment has become more widely available, I’ve noticed that many people assume all ketamine treatments are essentially the same. In reality, there can be significant differences in how ketamine is approached and what providers believe is responsible for...