Why We Keep Repeating the Same Relationships Patterns

One of the questions I hear most often in my office is some version of, “How did I end up here again?” The relationship may look different from the last one; the circumstances may have changed. Yet there is often a familiar feeling running through it. A person may...

I Understand…So Why Haven’t I Changed?

One of the things I’ve found myself thinking about more over the years is how much my understanding of therapy has changed. When I first became a therapist, I was deeply drawn to insight. That probably isn’t surprising. I’ve always loved ideas and...

Am I Actually Burned Out? A Self-Assessment Quiz

This quiz is based on themes from Emily & Amelia Nagoski’s Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle and Kristin Neff & Christopher Germer’s Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout. Burnout isn’t just “being...

On Turning 50

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about getting older. I turned fifty this year, and somehow I’m already almost fifty-one. That seems impossible because in my head I was just  having my 40s birthday celebration not that long ago. People ask me what...

Why I Can’t Stop Thinking About “From”

The season finale of From is over. Some pieces fell into place. Many didn’t. There are still so many questions, so we are left where the writers clearly intended us to be—waiting in the Lake of Uncertainty. All us From fans are anxiously waiting for the next season....