In the process of religious deconstruction, it’s easy to feel pressure to figure it all out—to name what we believe, where we stand, and how we’ll navigate relationships moving forward. That urgency makes sense. Many of us were taught we must know the ultimate truths about life, purpose, and the universe. But what if that’s not the goal?
The truth is, deconstruction isn’t a destination—it’s an ongoing unfolding. When we give ourselves permission to stay curious, to adjust and expand over time, we take the pressure off to have perfect answers or polished boundaries. We can learn to stand tall—not in certainty, but in curiosity, connection, and exploration.
Try this short somatic exercise to explore your own experience of not knowing.
Somatic Exercise: “Sitting with Not Knowing”
1. Find a quiet moment to pause. Gently scan your body from head to toe and notice what it’s like to be in your body. Observe any resistance or distraction with curiosity and compassion.
2. Ask yourself:
What is it like to not know right now?
3. Notice any sensations, emotions, or thoughts that arise.
4. Try to stay with the body for a few minutes, listening to anything it shares as you create more space to listen. There’s nothing to fix—just room to heal.
