Simply Being turns seven in September. Seven is a funny age. You’re definitely not a baby anymore. You have friends, opinions, a personality. You know what you like and what you don’t, although you probably still have a lot to figure out. Simply Being...
You already know how this one goes. It’s the third time this month. Maybe the fourth. It starts somewhere small — the dishes, the calendar, a tone of voice — and within ninety seconds you are both somewhere else entirely, somewhere older, running lines you have run so...
One of the questions I hear most often in my office is some version of, “How did I end up here again?” The relationship may look different from the last one; the circumstances may have changed. Yet there is often a familiar feeling running through it. A person may...
You’ve done the work. You’ve sat in therapy offices, named the hard things, unpacked the past, and traced the stories of your pain back to their roots. And yet — something still doesn’t feel resolved. Maybe it’s the tightness in your chest that shows up without...
One of the things I’ve found myself thinking about more over the years is how much my understanding of therapy has changed. When I first became a therapist, I was deeply drawn to insight. That probably isn’t surprising. I’ve always loved ideas and...
There is a particular kind of courage required to search for trauma therapy. It is quiet courage — the kind that happens at midnight, with a phone screen glowing in the dark, while you type words you’ve never said out loud. It is the courage of someone who has tried...
