You can tell me about your relationships. We can talk about the partner you can’t seem to trust. The parent whose approval you’re still chasing. The friend you’re afraid to disappoint. The way you disappear when someone is angry with you. The way you...
You’ve done the work. You’ve sat in therapy offices, named the hard things, unpacked the past, and traced the stories of your pain back to their roots. And yet — something still doesn’t feel resolved. Maybe it’s the tightness in your chest that shows up without...
You already know how this one goes. It’s the third time this month. Maybe the fourth. It starts somewhere small — the dishes, the calendar, a tone of voice — and within ninety seconds you are both somewhere else entirely, somewhere older, running lines you have run so...
One of the questions I hear most often in my office is some version of, “How did I end up here again?” The relationship may look different from the last one; the circumstances may have changed. Yet there is often a familiar feeling running through it. A person may...
You’ve done the work. You’ve sat in therapy offices, named the hard things, unpacked the past, and traced the stories of your pain back to their roots. And yet — something still doesn’t feel resolved. Maybe it’s the tightness in your chest that shows up without...
One of the things I’ve found myself thinking about more over the years is how much my understanding of therapy has changed. When I first became a therapist, I was deeply drawn to insight. That probably isn’t surprising. I’ve always loved ideas and...
