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Tips to Keep From Slipping Into Old Family Patterns Over the Holidays

Tips to Keep From Slipping Into Old Family Patterns Over the Holidays

Does this feel familiar? You’re back home for the holidays. You wake up at noon and roll out of bed to find the coffee pot empty. You’re surprised by how outraged you feel at your brother, who most certainly took that last cup. Your mom asks you a question about your plans today and you immediately lash out, feeling defensive. You find yourself fighting with your sister over things you truly...

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Why is Setting Boundaries so Hard?

Why is Setting Boundaries so Hard?

When you think about setting boundaries, what happens in your body? Do you notice a change in your heart rate? You may feel a weight in your chest or a pit in your stomach. Are you flooded with extra nervous energy or are you falling into a sleepy lull? If so, you aren’t alone, and you definitely aren’t overreacting. Long ago, belonging was necessary for human survival. Living alone in the wild...

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Free from Shame: Deconstructing Purity Culture

Free from Shame: Deconstructing Purity Culture

If you grew up in purity culture, you may find it nearly impossible to connect with your sexuality in a way that feels genuine and enjoyable. You may experience PTSD symptoms during consensual sexual experiences, even within marriage. You may wonder if the sexual violence you’ve survived must be because you were too loud, too tempting, too alive. Shame may...

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Am I Dissociating?

Am I Dissociating?

What does it feel like to dissociate? If I have trauma, does that mean I dissociate? If I don’t have trauma, does that mean I can’t dissociate? Sometimes I zone out while I’m driving, does this mean I have a disorder? Dissociation is a hot topic these days. Now that it has officially entered the chat, many people have a name for what they experience. However, this newfound awareness can bring...

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Four Ways to Build Resilience & Begin to Heal Anxiety.

Four Ways to Build Resilience & Begin to Heal Anxiety.

“Human beings are extremely difficult to kill,” said the nurse practitioner I was seeing at the time. She was trying to convey to me how resilient we are as a species and provide some reassurance. I struggled then with illness anxiety. And, if I am totally honest, I still deal with it to this day. I’ve actually been symptomatic since adolescence, but it was not until my brother’s death from...

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Hack your Anxiety in 5 Easy Steps with Mindfulness.

Hack your Anxiety in 5 Easy Steps with Mindfulness.

Staying in my head had been my best survival tool until it wasn’t. I thought that if I could stay with my thoughts, I could fix things or, at least, understand the why behind each problem. And it worked for a while. Wow, did it work! I thought it helped ward off anxiety. I could think about the pain, try to make sense of it, maybe even “figure it out,” but I never had to feel it. I could stay...

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“I was Raped”: 4 Ways to Respond when a Sexual Abuse Survivor Confides in You.

“I was Raped”: 4 Ways to Respond when a Sexual Abuse Survivor Confides in You.

When I first started working with survivors of sexual abuse, I struggled with the vivid images my mind created when listening to their stories. I remember having difficulty staying present, not to mention being triggered, with client after client and story after story. Many of my friends would wonder how I did it—meaning how I could sit and hold space for clients with this kind of trauma each...

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One Simple Technique that Will Change How You Move in the World

One Simple Technique that Will Change How You Move in the World

How Noticing your Surroundings Can Change How you Feel The Thrive Global Community welcomes voices from many spheres. We publish pieces written by outside contributors with a wide range of opinions, which don’t necessarily reflect our own. Community stories are not commissioned by our editorial team, and though they are reviewed for adherence to our guidelines, they are submitted in their final...

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